To Masters: Something to do with your female slaves I   (11/16/98)
	Leona wrote: How does one's Owner expunge the memory and the damage of the trauma of the arrest/incarceration process? Or the resultant stress trauma from being accosted by someone unsavory in that parking garage before her Master could get back to her? One's owner doesn't expunge it. One's owner deals with the fallout and tries to heal the person. I doubt that anyone can expunge a memory. Including the person themselves. Leona wrote: It's those little points which this latest "Dominant" or JK fail to address. The Owner might just be able and willing to take on and *guarantee* the safety or legal debts of the slave (though I doubt it), but I am of the opinion that the Owner cannot erase the effect and the memory of the negative experience of assault or arrest from the psyche of the slave. And that I have a problem with. The slave owns that trauma, that experience. It has been personally, intimately made part of the slave's real time past, and no power the Master has can undo that reality. This is very true. It does, of course, apply to anything that a dom and sub pair can do, and any kind of damage that is done to the sub on the order of a dom, inadvertant or not. That's one of the inherent risks of D/s. Leona wrote: Those are potentially expensive therapy bills. Who'll pay for that? Even *after* the slave withdraws from the "Master" in shock and pain and mistrust? I doubt it. Let me just say, I have yet to see or hear of a Dominant that committed to fixing what he broke. Anecdotal evidence only. Leona, let me introduce you to Argentium. Not only does he clean up his *own* messes, he cleans up the messes that *OTHER* people have made. I ought to know. He's helped to put back together the fragmented sense of myself that has developed over the last 8 years into a much stronger whole. And he didn't even make those problems.