24/7   (06/15/99)
   
 
    metika wrote:
    Ok...so what is the definition of 24/7? What's the definition of being a slave then?

    bldrnrpdx@aol.com wrote:
    I see my relationship with my Daddy as 24/7. We don't live together (4 hours away by Greyhound). I'm married to someone else. Even when we're together, we aren't always in Role. But he's *always* my Daddy, whatever is going on. It means even when I'm topping someone, he's still my Daddy.

    MsChiff wrote:
    Sorry, bladerunner, that ISN'T a 24/7 relationship.
I think that you forgot the words "For me" in there. Really.
    MsChiff wrote:
    Although you may be extremely devoted to your partner and the two of you spend quite a bit of time communicating with each other, it's NOT the same thing.
So, you're trying to tell another person what their relationship is from the outside? You can read minds perhaps?
    MsChiff wrote:
    You know you're in a 24/7 relationship when: -he/she is the first person you see in the morning and the last person you see when you go to bed at night.
I fail to see what this has to do with anything. The last person I see when I go to bed and the first one I see on getting up is *usually* either my cat or dog.

And I truly resent being told that I am not in a 24/7 relationship simply because at the moment I do not live with my Master. We live in the same town, but due to space constraints there was not enough room in his place for me to move in when I got here. So, forgive me if I have to cry bullshit on the idea that not *living* with someone disqualifies you from a 24/7 relationship.

Perhaps if you'd said something like "he/she is the first person you *think* about in the morning and the last person you *think* about when you go to bed at night". But, you know what? That would describe a whole *lot* of vanilla relationships, too.
    MsChiff wrote:
    -you have debates about leaving the toilet seat up or down.
So, if you don't debate about the toilet seat, you're not 24/7? Goodness.

I debate about a lot with my dom. That some trivial, some not. But, he's still my Master, regardless of what we do, and we are in a 24/7 regardless of what anyone else's requirements are. You don't have the right to claim that other people don't have it if they don't meet your rules.
    MsChiff wrote:
    -there are decisions about who cooks, cleans, takes out garbage.
Why?
    MsChiff wrote:
    Ya get where I'm coming from now?
Yeah, I am, and I think you're full of hot air. How can you tell someone that you don't know whether or not they are in a 24/7?
    MsChiff wrote:
    I'm not discounting the relationship you have now. Hopefully it's a prelude of a 24/7 situation. But still, it's NOT the same.
Yes, you are discounting the relationship. Because it doesn't meet *your* specifications of 24/7. 24/7 for many people revolves much more around the mental attitude of the pair rather than the physical location of the pair.

You seem to be hung up on the physical part. For a lot of us, d/s is much more mental than anything else. If I organize my day according to what my Master would want, if I think about what he would say or do or advise me, even when he's not there.....if he takes up that much of an important position in my life and he has the *right* to make my decisions for me, regardless of whether he does......then we are in a 24/7. The fact that he does not *live* with me doesn't change that.

He expects his orders to be followed regardless of whether he's there to check on it or not. And he knows that they will be. He trusts me. I would hazard to say that if you feel you must constantly keep a slave under your thumb to make certain they are behaving "correctly", then you aren't in a 24/7...there's not enough trust for it to be that.