This post was written by Argentium, moonlight's owner and operator.
[gunplay]
- Tobie wrote:
The hot topic, was that I dared to take the stance of: Not only is your kink not my kink, it's not ok at all. I know it's not PC, but is there a point when saying that is acceptable?
ENFORCING it is a whole other kettle of fish. If you're not one of the players, and don't want to be within the boundaries of potential damage if something did go wrong, LEAVE. To be fair, you did say you weren't about to do anything resembling enforcement of your views.
The way I look at this issue, and this is a very personal view is this:
1. This type of play is desirable to me. Full Stop, no further justification required.
2. Full consent must be present for me, those I'm directly playing with, and any observers present. Note: Generally I'm not going to entertain observers for this kind of scene. It's too personal, too powerful, and I'm already trying to manage an incredible level of risk without increasing same by involving others.
3. I've got to come up with a whole host of things to ensure that something terrible DOESN'T go wrong. I wish to avoid death and/or serious injury of all involved or all that could be incidentally or accidentally involved.
4. I want the scene to be convincing, scary, and mind-numbing. This is edge play after all, and the envelope will be pushed.
So... tell me I'm wrong if you wish, but leave it at that. Interference would equal trying to condemn someone for a wrong that has not yet taken place.
Discuss risk reduction with me all you like, I welcome that, though I may take some of the discussion to private email, as I'm not about to tip my hat about all the risk reduction tricks I'm going to use to create a really excellent mindfuck and a safe scene. That would violate (4). :-)
So, my kink may not be OK in your eyes, it may be stupid (your words), but I don't care, because I neither know you, play with you, nor do I have to worry about your safety as an observer, or a person within potential firing range.
This is not a statement about how much I like you, by the way. :-)
Would I leave a scene where gunplay was involved and I was just an observer? Most likely, though that's not always going to be true depending on what precautions have been taken in advance. It takes a lot to make me comfortable where someone else is going to use firearms and I'm not in control of the outcome.
So, did I answer your question?
