Yes, I know I'm late jumping in here, but I was in the process of a move. So sue me. :) I'm now settled into Kansas City and have time to post on occasion. :)
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Jack Peacock wrote:
Dysfunction? Now that sounds like some sort of prejudice or intolerance toward submissives. Just what is it that's "dysfunctional" about wanting to be free of responsibility, to let someone else decide?
Sockermom wrote:
Well, usually life is a journey, from childhood, in which a person is basically powerless and unable to take power and responsibility for themselves; to adulthood, where they have earned their personal power through demonstrating responsibility and ability.
Someone who chooses to not accept responsibility for themselves is seen as not yet an adult (see where this is going?). Also, for the most part, we as a society are suspicious of such a choice.
I think this is where people are tending to part company. For myself, I had the responsibility to choose a person to compliment my needs, *including* my need to not be in charge, let someone else make the decisions, and be basically responsible for me.
Yes, I have a set of responsibilities that I am expected to follow. But, you know what? Those are specifically designated to me by my dom. And I wouldn't have had them specifically handed back if I hadn't given them up.
Does that make me childlike? I certainly don't think so. I doubt that Tiger thinks so. I can choose to give up everything that I am to another person and let them make the decisions about what I will and won't do. Including what I am then responsible for again.
For me, that is an integral part of submission/slavery. Some of you might not like that I have that choice. Some of you might call that not being responsible for myself. Or any one of a hundred other things. But, in the end, it is what being ultimately responsible for yourself leads to.
The path that is right for you. And in some cases, that is letting go of *EVERYTHING* and handing it over to another person. Nor is it easy or simple to do, as people seem to think. Sure, it's a way to escape. And it can be a bad one. But it *also* can be done in a responsible manner. And *not* be a bad decision at all.
For what it's worth, I've done it both ways, now. Doing it responsibly is *infinately* harder than just saying "You're responsible for me, now, so all the decisions are yours."
And then some.
