- J wrote:
The things is, I'm a switch but I don't do so easily, or to just anyone. Funny thing is, I do service really fookin well. I make a great bodyguard.
*blinks* Y'know....I've been reading here for a pretty long time. And this is somewhat surprising. Not in a bad way...just...surprising.
- J wrote:
Funny thing is, I see these men bottoming to many women who demonstrate no power that I can perceive. Without a doubt, my perception is clouded by my own strength (such as it is).
I'm not so sure that's the case. There's a reason that I only sub to men. Most women are not cut out for handling my mental makeup. I refuse to bow to someone that can't control me...much less kneel to them. There is one woman, currently, that I defer to, but that is more out of the wishes of Tiger than her actual control over me. She might be able to control for a short term. But I don't think the power to control is there longer term. Only when I wish it to be.
Previously, I'd assumed this was simply due to my being heterosexual but lately I'm not so sure. I'll have to think about what you've said in that context...because you may be on to something for some segments of the population.
PSimilarly, the reactions I've gotten to being on the top side of the equation are a little baffling to me. It's almost like they're intimidated. That may not be quite the right word...hesitant to approach? I never approached it from the idea of power and strength...I guess I assumed it was just that I wasn't sure where I'm going with being a top/dom.
- J wrote:
I saw a male sub that made me sit up and take notice once. He was big and powerful --- larger than me. He was lean, moving like a cat, his eyes scanning the room, never looking down, never dropping his gaze. There was nothing weak about him -- just strong, obedient service. He was being led by a strong looking woman. She walked like she was leading a really big Doberman.
See, this is, realistically, how I view D/s....how it "should be"...(and I'll tack on a for me...I know my tastes are not to everyone's liking). When I am on the leash, I don't cower and grovel. I am strong and I bring my good points and bad points to my owner. When I hold the leash, I expect the same.
- J wrote:
You should have seen the looks on the faces of the other male subs. They looked like dogs ready to soil themselves.
Do you think this is more prevalent in male subs? Or does it occur in both genders? Or is this the male version of simpering, cute, helpless femsubs?
