- Ginger wrote:
Interesting thread... I would think being Dominant or submissive is more what one is, rather than what one does with it.... Being what i am is fulfilling regardless of who i am relating to, regardless of their sex or sexual leaning. it is, what i am. i think true Dominants are the same but should not comment for them. warm thoughts to you all on this cold and wintery day (WHO TURNED OFF THE SUN!!!)
Master Michael, Mistress Myhkayla, slave susan, and slave tom are roles that we take that express those orientation. They are somewhat malleable and can change over time. Orientations can't.
To continue on with that thought.... :)
Kinsey proposed that there was a sliding scale of sexuality that ranged from pure heterosexual to pure homosexual and that there were very few people that existed at either end of the spectrum.
Pat Califia in her Sensual Magic book suggested that the same sliding scale exists for dominance and submission. That the end points are truly rare.
Switching, then, becomes defined as being "both" and not "neither" as is often proposed.
With these concepts in mind....I'd like to propose that there is no one under the sun that is "true" anything. They are a blend of their own unique requirements and orientations. There is not one defining property that one can talk about for being a "dominant" or a "submissive" since we are all unique in our needs. There are trends and tendencies, certainly. But those sliding scales and bell curves tell the bulk of the story.
