Newsgroup Natterings follows the evolution of moonlight through her early years of being involved in the BDSM lifestyle to the present time on the alt.sex.bondage and soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm newsgroups. Each piece has a Ratings Panda on the document to give an indication of how graphic a particular piece will be. For more information on the Ratings Panda System used within this site, please take a look at our Ratings Page. Articles are in reverse order, from newest at the top to oldest at the bottom.
   
   
   
   
  A Question on a Checklist... II   (05/01/03) - moonlight and Rob continue their discussion
   
  A Question on a Checklist... I   (04/30/03) - moonlight and Rob discuss whether an animal can consent to sexual activity and whether that activity is common in the BDSM community.
   
  The Leather Restoration II (04/30/03) - moonlight continues her discussion with Observer.
   
  The Leather Restoration I (04/30/03) - moonlight and Observer discuss an article written by Guy Baldwin and whether the Leather Community should be inclusive or exclusive.
   
  Breath Play Can Cause Cardiac Arrest (04/16/03) - moonlight talks about the dangers and risks of breath play.
   
  Identity, Image, Rambling... IV (04/10/03) - moonlight and perrin talk about stereotypes in the Leather Community.
   
  Identity, Image, Rambling... III (04/09/03 - moonlight and perrin talk about the stereotypical groveling worm style of play.
   
  Identity, Image, Rambling... II (04/08/03)- moonlight and HSH talk about women that are too "masculine" and the issues they face.
   
  Identity, Image, Rambling... I (04/08/03) - moonlight and J talk about how subs present themselves in public.
   
  Switching (04/08/03)- moonlight and Ginger talk about people who switch roles within BDSM.
   
  What Makes a Dom? (04/06/03) - moonlight responds to a question about what a "dominant" is.
   
  Newbies as Victims   (01/26/03)- moonlight and Mariandl talk about whether it's better to protect or educate newbies to keep them from being victims within the Leather Community.
   
  Tolerance II   (01/24/03)- moonlight and Kevan continue their argument.
   
  Tolerance I   (01/23/03)- moonlight and Kevan disagree on exactly what types of behavior need to be tolerated within the Leather Community.
   
  Polyamory, Online Play, Writing, etc. (02/11/02) - Another article with moonlight and /amq talking about self-image, self-esteem, and issues surrounding being confident of who they are.
   
  More on This, and Film at 11 (01/22/02) - moonlight and a friend discuss changing play styles, switching, and assorted other topics.
   
  The Internals of a Relationship (01/22/02) - moonlight and Argentium talk about their relationship and how it happened.
   
  Thrill Seeking - These posts are a series talking about edge play underwater, the risks, and how to lower them.
   
  The Care and Feeding of Doms - HELP! (02/21/00) - moonlight talks about depression and deserving to feel happy.
   
  Assumptions - WAS: Safest Way to... II (02/05/00) - moonlight's final exchange with Charles.
   
  Assumptions - WAS: Safest Way to... I (02/04/00) - The discussion continues with moonlight and Charles talking about assumptions and fears.
   
  Safest Way to Break a Bone (02/04/00) - moonlight discusses whether kinks can go to far.
   
  Can you put yourself in his mind? (02/04/00) - moonlight discusses whether YKINOK (Your Kink Is Not OK) is acceptable.
   
  Requirement for Doms to demand before submissive gives? (02/02/00) - moonlight discusses resistance and challenging behavior within submissives.
   
  The Effects of Trust (12/23/99) - moonlight discusses the ramifications of the scene written about in One Weekend.
   
  One Weekend - Safety Discussion (12/23/99)- Argentium details how he made the instruments used in their scene safer.
   
  One Weekend (12/22/99) - Argentium pushes moonlight past limits that she thought she had.
   
  A Loaded Gun I (08/28/99) - Argentium talks about how to make gun play safer in a scene.
   
  Masters and Slaves (07/05/99) - A discussion on M/s spun out of one of the many JKay debates.
   
  A Question about Chloroform (07/01/99) - moonlight talks to someone about choke holds for breath play.
   
  What do you - as a Dom - in this situation II (06/30/99) - Argentium follows up moonlight's comments with some of his own.
   
  What do you do - as a Dom - in this situation I (06/25/99) - moonlight talks about what happens when a submissive has trouble with safewords.
   
  How Does a Slave Survive a Breakup (06/14/99) - moonlight and others talk about how to survive the breakups of D/s relationships.
   
  Having Read the Rules (05/13/99) - moonlight and JKay go rounds again on slavery and appropriate safety and behavior.
   
  Doms vs. Husbands III (03/14/99) - The final article on polyamory and polyfidelity.
   
  Doms vs. Husbands II (03/13/99) - The second of three articles.
   
  Doms vs. Husbands I (03/13/99) - How does polyamory fit into the BDSM lifestyle? moonlight discusses polyamory and polyfidelity in a series of three articles.
   
  Division of responsibility in M/s (03/11/99) - moonlight discusses whether submission in a Master/slave or Total Power Exchange relationship is disfunctional.
   
  To Masters: Some things to do with your female slaves (12/03/98) - moonlight gets fed up with another long running nemesis from soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm and proves that not all slaves and submissives are docile. Some Masters even like it that way.
   
  Abusive Personalities (11/14/98) - This is an ongoing conversation weaving in and around the That Humiliation Thing Again discussion. They both took place at the same time with the same cast of speakers.
   
  That Humiliation Thing Again (11/07/98) - Starting in late 1998, moonlight has a long series of rather vitriolic exchanges with a dominant named JKay. We've included many of these exchanges as an illustration of some of the dangers of interacting within the Leather Community and the types of people that are out there. JKay, in moonlight's estimation, is an extremely unsafe individual and her writing shows that. While she is willing to engage him in conversations, she does so as illustrations of what to watch out for.
   
  moonlight's Rules (11/14/98) - A Personal Reworking of JKay's 128 Rules for Slaves
   
  Beyond Vulnerability (10/25/98) - moonlight talks to another submissive about being betrayed, getting hurt, and starting over.
   
  Competitive BDSM, Bullwhips, and TPE (10/14/98) - Extreme behavior and Masters going crazy come up again as Total Power Exchange gets discussed.
   
  Safewords: How Weird am I, Anyway?(10/05/98) - This is a multipart discussion regarding Total Power Exchange, BDSM, and Safewords.
   
  my Master JK: Subtitle - Yes, He Plays and Lives this Lifestyle! II (10/06/98) - Alternately titled: The Dangers of High Heels and Why JKay is Dangerous.
   
  my Master JK: Subtitle - Yes, He Plays and Lives this Lifestyle! I (10/05/98) - Alternately titled: The Dangers of High Heels and Why JKay is Dangerous.
   
  Comments on a Critique of the 128 Rules (09/25/98) - moonlight tries to dispell the notion that slaves and subs have been brainwashed and instill the idea that learned submission is better than programmed..
   
  How are the 128 Rules so Different? (09/12/98) - moonlight and JKay again discuss why subs aren't cookie cutter people and interchangeable.
   
  BDSM, Identification With a Community (08/18/98) - moonlight talks about how BDSM is a label that some people grab and later let go of.
   
  Counterbalance II (07/12/98) - moonlight and JK continue to discuss whether it is better to push a slave in the direction the Master wants her to go in or in the direction that is best for the slave herself.
   
  Counterbalance I (07/11/98) - moonlight and JK discuss whether it is better to push a slave in the direction the Master wants her to go in or in the direction that is best for the slave herself.
   
  Gender Natures (03/15/98) - moonlight talks about what happens when a Total Power Exchange relationship experiences a fundamental change.
   
  Information on Poly Relationships (06/07/97) - What happens in poly relationships when everyone's not attracted to everyone else?
   
  Aarrrgghh - Yahoo - or first swing ambivalence (05/24/97) - moonlight talks about bisexual experiences with multiple partners going awry.
   
  Dominance Skills III (05/12/97)- Are there limits to absolute relationships?
   
  Dominance Skills II (05/10/97) - Later in the same discussion the dangers of bondage during play arises as an example of why it is better to control a submissive without bondage.
   
  Dominance Skills I (05/10/97) - In a discussion of the power exchange between Dominant and Submissive, moonlight explains why she prefers to be bound while playing.
   
  Is there such a thing as a Sub with Backbone? (04/20/97) - moonlight takes part in a discussion about submissives and slaves testing their dominants.
   
  What's in it for ME? True subs (01/19/97) - moonlight talks with people about raising energy and headspace to get through difficult scenes.
   
  A Question to Those in Absolute Relationships (10/12/96) - moonlight fields a question about whether it's ok to stay away or leave one's dominant.
   
  Breath Control - On the Receiving End (10/04/96) - moonlight talks about being on the receiving end of breath control play.
   
  TPE (Total Power Exchange) III (07/03/96) - The discussion swings to TPE and responsibility.
   
  TPE (Total Power Exchange) II (07/03/96) - The discussion continues with the question of why it's TPE and not Total Power Transfer.
   
  TPE (Total Power Exchange) I (07/02/96) - moonlight joins a conversation about total power exchange and whether Love or Will is important and the deciding factor
   
  Magickal Headspace and Subspace (03/21/96) - moonlight talks about the similarities and differences in headspace as a witch and subspace.
   
  New Dominatrix Needs Bottom (11/12/94) - Proving that subs don't have to be door mats, moonlight reads someone the riot act over their attitude.
   
  Hypnosis and BD/SM (09/07/94) - moonlight talks about the use of hypnosis as used by her Master.
   
  My Property's Property (06/10/94) - Can a slave own property? Or is that just beyond the pale?
   
  Opinions of a Deviator II (01/04/94) - Otherwise entitled The Self-Contradiction of Submission. moonlight addresses the idea that submission is pathological again.
   
  The Opinions of a Deviator I (01/04/94) - moonlight and Even Steven discuss whether BDSM can be therapeutic in the face of Steven's insistence that submission is pathological.
   
  Jealousy (11/30/93) - Often slaves and submissives experience jealousy over the inclusion of other people in their relationship with their owner. Is jealousy ok to feel or should it be stompped out?
   
  Delurk / Core Dump / Questions (11/13/93) - moonlight answers some questions on why tops and bottoms are wired the way they are.
   
  Safewords (11/06/93) - Sometimes submissives have a hard time using their safewords and that's ok.
   
  Voluntary Slavery (10/12/93) - Is true slavery possible in a long distance relationship?
   
  Power Transfer: Not Just a Good Idea (10/07/93) - This is another discussion in the ongoing debates of moonlight and Even Steven about the inherent health of Power Exchange.
   
  Violence and Anger (10/06/93) - People new to BDSM often find themselves acting in ways that are strange or foreign to their normal behavior. How do you learn to tell what's ok and what's not?
   
  Genetic Influence on BDSM II(10/06/93)- A continuation of the genetics conversation.
   
  Genetic Influence on BDSM I (10/06/93) - In a discussion on genetic influence on BDSM, moonlight and Even Steven get into a heated debate in the middle of a long thread. Steven's position is that submission is pathological and that there is something inherently flawed about submissives that make them weak. This discussion is continued in Part II
   
  The Secret Meaning of Hunger (06/28/93) - moonlight responds to someone's concerns about HIV transmission via blood sharing between partners.