A Painful Discussion III  (07/21/99)
	perversia wrote: I would also suggest to the original post-er (I'm sorry, I got a little lost in this thread) perhaps instead of using bondage in case of rage, just stopping the scene when any anger occurs. Personally, for me, any kind of anger would ruin the scene, even mild annoyance. Maybe I just have a hard time understanding because it's never happened to me, but I'm not sure why anyone would continue a scene while angry. I would think that would make things worse. Don't worry about getting lost. :) I'm the original poster. :) I think that several other people have discussed it in the past, but I'll bring it up again. Tiger and I have a very "animal" side sometimes. Our play will often reflect that. If we are in the middle of it and the play just takes over...we will often fight. As in fight for dominance as those particular animals that we identify with. Some people refer to it as the "beast" or other things. For me, its generally either a wolf or mountain lion. As you might guess, his is a tiger. That "fight" is deadly serious and is a fight that neither wants to lose. It's generally not about anger. It's.....something else. I prefer rough exchanges on occasion and am learning to deal with the pain that he wants to give me. Which, right now, is what sometimes leads to the anger and rage instead of what he's looking for. I don't really see anything wrong with playing with anger and rage if that is what the people want. It can be *very* cathartic and fun. I suspect there are people here that can address *that* part of it much better than I can at the moment.